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Workshops on Understanding & Overturning our “Immunity to Change”

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Introduction

Why is it that even after reading about Emotional Intelligence and agreeing with it, one does not become emotionally intelligent? Why do team coordination, coherence, and performance not improve consistently after attending workshop sessions on such topics? Why do almost 90% of training workshops conducted for individuals or groups and rated very highly immediately after completion fail to bring about any significant change in the participants? Are the participants so utterly devoid of commitment? Motivation? Will power? Does the problem lie with team cultures? Do organizational environments discourage such transformations? Or is the resistance to making a change a natural phenomenon?

Join our workshop to find answers to these questions and to successfully make positive changes in your and your team’s performance. (For more information, click here).

Goal

The workshop is designed to achieve two goals: First, to help participants directly observe their psychological immune systems at work, and second, to help them overcome their respective immune systems.

Audience

The workshop is offered for individuals and existing teams (with a minimum of eight members). In the case of teams, the participation of the team leader will be mandatory.

Preparation

Before the start of the workshop, all participants are requested to work on and generate a few improvement goals for themselves that they want to work on during the workshop. Guidelines for determining our improvement goals will be provided to the registrants before the start of the session.

Organization

Part 1: Mapping our “Immunity to Change”

In the first part, each participant will be taken through the process of uncovering, recognizing, and observing their psychological immune system at work and how it frustrates their efforts in making meaningful and desirable changes in their lives.

Part 2: Overcoming our “Immunity to Change” (at the choice of the participants)

In the second part, each participant will understand and undertake the process of overcoming their immunity to change and successfully materializing their desired improvement goal.

Methodology

“Overturning our Immunity to Change” sessions are planned as a cooperative, conversation-based, and experiential exercise in understanding and reflecting on the experience and then overturning our psychological immune system.

Duration

For Individuals & Groups

The first part of the workshop is likely to be completed in 5 to 7 hours of conceptual and group work. After completing the first part, participants may take a break or immediately continue working on the second part. (Total time: approximately 7 hours)

The conceptual work in the second part will be completed in a maximum of 2 hours, after which the participants will continue meeting and sharing the progress in their respective experimentation work every week for 60 to 90 minutes. Depending on the participants’ progress, the second part will likely be completed in the group’s 6 to 9 weekly meetings (including the 2-hour session on conceptual work). (Total time: approximately 14 hours)

For Teams

All team members will be required to complete the sessions for individuals and groups (as given above). Besides that, an additional 6 to 8 hours will be required for teams. (Total time: approximately 30 hours)

Prerequisites

Completion of part 1 is a prerequisite for registration in part 2. However, after the completion of part 1, the participants can register for part 2 at their convenience.

Investment

  1. For one-to-one sessions: US $50 per hour.
  2. For group participation (with at least 12 members): US $20 per hour per member.
  3. For existing teams:
  • For at least ten members US $20 per hour per member
  • Teams of less than ten members US $200 per hour.

Registration:

For registration, please fill in the form here.

For queries, and clarifications, you may leave a comment below.

 

Video Introduction

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Punishment by ‘Community Service’!

I was attending a meeting with an educational group. One of the members of the group mentioned that they had found an innovative way of punishing those students, who were found guilty of misconduct. He elaborated on his excitement thus: ‘When someone is found guilty of misconduct, he/she has to perform a fixed number of hours in community service.’ I could not hold myself back from interjecting him and said: ‘Community service as a punishment? Don’t you think a person should be subjected to it as a reward for something good that he/she has done, rather than as a punishment?’ Ignoring my question, he said: ‘This point is beyond the scope of this meeting. Secondly, we have had great results from it. We will, therefore, continue doing so.’ And that was the end of the discussion on this point.

I am strictly against the idea of controlling behavior through the Skinnerian or the Behavioral model of Rewards and Punishments. Much has and will be written and said on it. Today, my surprise at this idea of subjecting a perpetrator to mandatory hours of ‘community service’ forced me to write. It needs to be acknowledged at the start that this is not a new idea and may find its roots in the idea of the rehabilitation of criminals.

Without delving into the philosophical aspects of this point of view, there is one aspect that makes one cringe: Do we want to promote ‘community work’ in our young, as a punishment? A punishment, as the current social paradigm holds, is something that a wrongdoer is subjected to, which is considered humiliating and socially degrading. The whole idea can be summed up as follows:

When I have done something wrong, I should be subjected to an act that would make me feel more humiliated and degraded, compared to the pleasure I had gained from my initial ‘wrong’ doing.

Now, think about the whole idea again. Do we want to promote community service in our young as representing humiliation and social degradation? Shouldn’t it, to the contrary, be promoted as representing a special privilege that only the fortunate ones are allowed to undertake? As already mentioned, I am strictly against the behavioral idea of behavior modification, but it was only with this in mind that I had dared to ask: Don’t you think a person should be subjected to it as a reward for something good that he/she has done, rather than as a punishment?

We are so overwhelmed by the Skinnerian school of stimulus and response that we have completely lost sight of the fact that the element of perception that lies between the stimulus and the response plays a pivotal role in the ultimate and the long-term development of the human being in question. It is quite possible to get the desired response from the subject in the short-run (because of our control over the stimulus), yet in the long-run such stimuli, because of misperceptions (or simply different perceptions) on the part of the subject, can sometimes lead to results that are very different from what we had originally desired.

 

December 18, 2019
(Lahore, Pakistan)

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The Making of a Good Human Being

Close to the border of Punjab and Sindh lies the city of Rahim Yar Khan. I had to travel there from Lahore on the 8th of December, 2019. I had to conduct a workshop session there, the next day. This time, the topic was “Our Impact on those Around Us.”

One of the discomforts that I have to face because of traveling is due to my own finical and restricted taste in food. I don’t like eating out. So, sometimes I try to make do on fresh fruits or even a packet of potato chips. 9th December was one such day. After having completed my session, I returned to my room at the Sadiq Club. I asked the manager on duty if I could get an egg sandwich. I was informed that the club did not have an in-house kitchen. So, I decided to take a walk to a nearby shop and get myself a packet of potato chips and a lemon malt. The shop was hardly 250 meters away from where I was staying.

As I started my walk back, after my shopping, I was a little startled as a young boy on a motorbike halted right beside me. A sudden storm of thoughts flooded my mind. Was he going to snatch the bag of my potato chips and lemon malt? Was I being robbed? Abducted? As the storm subsided, I realized that the boy was too frail to abduct me. There was nothing in his hands even remotely resembling a weapon, so a robbery was also not a possibility. Finally, having come to a complete halt, he was not in a position to snatch the bag from my hand.

As I returned to reality from my adventurous imaginations, I heard him say: “Uncle, sit. I’ll give you a ride.” Surprised at his offer, I told him: “I am staying at this club, it is just a few meters away.” He said: “I’ll drop you wherever you want to go.” Not able to control my curiosity, I asked: “Why do you want to help me, son?” I was pleasantly surprised, when he replied: “Because I want to be a good human being.” Lost for words, I silently sat behind him on his motorbike.

It was a very short companionship, yet a very impactful one.

Within a few seconds, we had stopped at the gate of the club where I was staying. Again, for the lack of anything better that came to my mind, I heard myself saying, “Son, can I give you some money?” He smiled and said, “No. No. That will spoil everything.” I asked him, “Spoil what?” He replied, “My effort to be a good human being.” I asked him again, “Seriously, why did you help me?” He replied, “My father used to tell me to help others, in whatever way I can. He used to say, ‘it is best that you help strangers, whom you are not even likely to meet again, as that will keep your heart clear of any expectations of a return.’ That, he used to say, is what makes a good human being.”

That was the last that I saw that young boy. As I was walking to my room, I was thinking about his father. He must have been an unusual man. In these times, when most parents only want to know about their child’s grades and scores, he was an exceptional parent, who ignited a very different aspiration in his son’s mind.

I entered my room and started preparing to review the material for my session scheduled for the next day. As I opened my files, the title of the session caught my eyes: “Our Impact on those Around Us.”

The smiling face of the young boy was clear in my mind.

December 15, 2019
(Bahawalpur, Pakistan)

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