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Taking Off the “Depression Glasses”

 

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The way we see the world is never entirely neutral. Our minds act like lenses, shaping how we interpret events, relationships, and even our self-esteem. For some, this lens becomes darker over time—formed by repeated disappointments, painful experiences, or internalized labels. Life might feel dull not necessarily because it is, but because of the “glasses” we are wearing.

This metaphor of “depression glasses” captures a truth many can relate to: depression is not only about how things are but also about how we have learned to see them. The first step toward healing often begins with realizing that we are wearing these glasses in the first place.

The Weight of Labels

When someone says, “I am a depressed person,” the label does more than describe—it defines. Over time, these labels become heavy and part of one’s identity. Every event is influenced by the belief: “Of course I feel this way, because I am depressed.”

But a label isn’t destiny. It captures a moment of struggle, not a permanent identity. The risk of labels is that they subtly train us to see ourselves through a single story, until those views become so fixed that we forget what the world looks like without them.

The Metaphor of the Glasses

Think of wearing tinted glasses: everything—sunlight, a flower, or a smile—looks different through that tint. Depression works in a similar way.

  • Joy feels muted. Achievements seem smaller, happiness seems fleeting.
  • Problems seem exaggerated. Small inconveniences appear much larger, as if seen through a magnifying glass.
  • Hope seems unrealistic. The future appears bleak regardless of the actual possibilities.

The tragedy isn’t that the world has changed, but that our view of it has.

Awareness: The First Step

The pivotal moment happens when we realize: “I am wearing depression glasses.”

This awareness doesn’t instantly cure the heaviness, but it creates a vital gap between “me” and “my thoughts.” It allows a person to say:

  • This isn’t the only perspective.
  • I am not my depression; I am a person going through depressive thoughts.
  • I can try taking the glasses off, even if just for a few minutes.

Once that realization occurs, a different form of agency becomes possible.

Taking the Glasses Off: Practical Steps

  1. Practice brief moments of awareness. Notice when thoughts sound absolute—“nothing ever works,” “everything is hopeless.” Remind yourself: this is the lens speaking.
  2. Challenge the label. Instead of “I am depressed,” try: “I am experiencing depressive feelings.” This minor change helps avoid the identity trap.
  3. Practice micro-actions. Spending three minutes on focused attention or quick gratitude reflections can ease negativity.
  4. Seek outside perspectives. Trusted friends, mentors, or professionals can serve as mirrors, helping you recognize what your biased view hides.
  5. Acknowledge your persistence. Even when negative thoughts come back, remind yourself: their persistence doesn’t make them true. They are intrusive but not controlling.

Spiritual Reframing: Suffering with Purpose

Every suffering that causes depressive thoughts can be reframed through faith. If the situation you face is not random but given by an Almighty, Wise, and Merciful Creator, then it cannot be without meaning.

Even when the exact purpose of a hardship is hidden from us, we can rest assured that it was not created in vain. Recognizing that God does not send us through pointless situations becomes a grounding truth.

This viewpoint enables us to transform our internal conversation.

  • This trial is not pointless. It has been allowed by a Merciful God.
  • Just because I don’t see its wisdom yet, doesn’t mean it doesn’t have wisdom.
  • The same God who permitted this pain is also the One who sustains me through it.

Persistently reminding ourselves of this truth makes faith an inner ally. It may not eliminate the heaviness of depression immediately, but it can ease it, providing strength, perspective, and hope. Over time, this spiritual reframing can become a powerful support—if not a full cure.

The Role of Gratitude and Balance

One of the most effective cures for depression glasses is gratitude. When life feels extremely negative, deliberately noticing small positives—like a safe shelter, a caring friend, or the ability to breathe freely—reminds us that the tint is not the whole picture.

This isn’t about ignoring pain or pretending everything is okay. It’s about refusing to let the dark lens erase the light that still exists. Gratitude, practiced regularly, slowly peels away the tint, allowing in more clarity.

The Journey of Persistence

Taking off depression glasses is not a one-time act. Often, we briefly remove them only to find ourselves putting them back on unconsciously. But with persistence—repeatedly practicing awareness, gratitude, and spiritual reframing—life begins to look different.

Initially, the change might be subtle: colors appear slightly brighter, conversations feel less exhausting, and hope seems a bit more realistic. Over time, those moments add up, and the glasses no longer feel stuck to the face.

Conclusion

Depression glasses distort how we see ourselves and the world, but they are not permanent. They can be recognized, challenged, reinterpreted, and slowly eliminated.

The journey is neither quick nor straight. But each moment of awareness, every refusal to see negative thoughts as the final truth, each act of gratitude, and every reminder that suffering serves a divine purpose are steps toward clearer understanding.

Seen from the perspective of a Merciful and Wise Creator, life—even with its hardships—gains purpose. And within that purpose, hope and healing are born.

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Who are You?

Today, I would like to direct the same question to my friends, which I tried to answer for myself in the last post: “Who are you and what is the identity that you have chosen for yourself?”

Conduct an experiment: If you only ask the first part of the question, “who are you?” almost everyone that you meet will answer it by telling you their name or, sometimes, by adding their position or the designation, which they hold in their organization, or by explaining what they do. This clearly points out, on the one hand, that most people – a very large majority – have no sense of identity other than the names that they were given or other than the jobs that they are performing. While, on the other hand, it is an indication that we are, generally, so devoid of a sense of identity that we search for it in such things as our positions, designations, and achievements. However, the problem is that as a being with a conscious, as well as a conscience, we will not be satisfied with an identity given to us by someone else – even if that someone includes our parents, or elders. Neither will we be satisfied with an identity that is likely to change every time our position, work, responsibility, or social status is changed by the circumstances.

Thus, our sense of identity not only gives us stability in our ever changing, unpredictable, and complex world and circumstances, it also gives a meaning to our lives; it provides us the strength to face our share of failures and difficult times in life; it gives us the courage to do what we understand to be right, even when the costs of doing right are high. In a way, it makes us fully human – conscious and conscientious – and connects us to a purpose larger than ourselves.

As a side note, it may be interesting to know that one of the reasons ascribed to the recent increase in the incidence of depression and even suicide – which is indicative of complete hopelessness and despair – is lack of meaning in one’s life. Viktor Frankl’s treatise, ‘Man’s Search for Meaning’ and the subsequent recognition of ‘Logotherapy’ as a branch of Psychology, allows me to say with confidence that striving to find meaning in life is the primary, most powerful motivating driving force in humans.

The idea of a lack of consciously developed identity and a lack of meaning in life reminds me of the large number of students – especially aspiring medical students – who invariably call me in a state of extreme hopelessness and distress, because of their low grades, which are insufficient for pursuing their further studies to become doctors. They clearly sound as if they have lost all sense of identity from their lives. The position and the emotional state of adults is not significantly different, when they are removed from their long-standing, cherished positions.

I do not intend to give the impression that in my opinion, such incidents in life should not be a cause of disturbance and sadness. They most definitely are and probably will continue to be. But, that is life, isn’t it? Things – unpleasant and unwanted – are also going to happen. Having a strong sense of meaning and self-identity will greatly support us in going through the turbulent times of life. This is precisely the message that I have discerned from Viktor Frankl’s ‘Man’s search for Meaning.’

Coming back to the point, I would like you to answer the question “Who are you and what is the identity that you have chosen for yourself?”

Take some time in trying to answer this question. Look past yourself and beyond your immediate needs, desires, and concerns. Look at your surroundings and see what is it that you care enough to contribute to the people around you. Is there any way that you can slightly reduce anyone’s suffering? Is there any thing that you feel moved enough to contribute to those for whom your contribution is of much more value than it costs you? Your identity doesn’t have to be something that challenges the whole world. It can be as humble as making a small difference in a single life – one life at a time. Something that you are moved to contribute as you go through all the ups and downs of your own life. Something that provides you a stable and a permanent identity – at least in your own eyes – irrespective of the changes in your position, responsibility, job, or status.

December 14, 2019
(Lahore, Pakistan)

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