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Humility and Courage: The Two Pillars of Living by Universal Principles

 

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Across cultures, religions, and philosophies, certain values consistently emerge as universal principles—truthfulness, respect, patience, compassion, tolerance, and justice. They are timeless, deeply human, and recognized by everyone’s conscience. But simply acknowledging these values is not enough. The real challenge is in living them consistently, especially when personal desires, ego, or fear stand in the way.

To embody universal principles in daily life, two qualities are essential: humility and courage. These qualities are not only complementary but also fundamental. Without them, the loftiest principles remain aspirational ideals rather than actual lived experiences.

Why Humility Comes First

Humility means recognizing that my principles take priority over my personal ego. If honesty is my principle, then admitting I was wrong doesn’t damage my self-respect —in fact, it enhances it. If compassion is my principle, then my convenience shouldn’t come before someone else’s needs.

The Qur’an emphasizes this inward stance:

“The doors of the heavens will not be opened for those who rejected Our verses and arrogantly ignored them. They will not enter paradise until a camel passes through the eye of a needle[1]. That is how We punish such criminals.” (Al-A’raf 7:40)

Humility, then, is not a sign of weakness. It is the strength to admit that truth and virtue always transcend my ego.

Example: A parent realizes they scolded their child unfairly. The ego resists admitting fault—“How can I apologize to a child?” But humility transforms the situation: by admitting the mistake, the parent models honesty and respect, and, as a bonus, strengthens the bond of trust.

Why Courage is Essential

If humility surrenders the ego before principles, courage enables a person to act on those principles even when it costs them something. Aristotle, in his Nicomachean Ethics, described courage as the middle ground between cowardice and recklessness: not the absence of fear, but the resolve to act rightly despite fear.

The Qur’an praises this resolve:

“Those whom people cautioned, “The people [of Mecca] have gathered a great force against you; fear them,” but this [information] only increased their faith, and they replied, “God is sufficient for us. He is the best guardian.” (Āl ʿImrān 3:173)

Example: An employee who discovers corruption in their organization is aware of the risks of speaking up—loss of position, hostility, or isolation. But courage rooted in principle drives them to act anyway, believing that integrity is worth more than temporary security.

The Interplay of Humility and Courage

Humility without courage can result in passive virtue—knowing what is right but lacking the boldness to act on it. Courage without humility can turn into arrogance—using boldness to impose the self rather than uphold principles.

Together, they form a balanced character:

  • Humility keeps me small before truth.
  • Courage keeps me strong against falsehood.

This is why thinkers like C.S. Lewis argued that humility is not thinking less of oneself, but thinking of oneself less—while courage, he said, is “not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point.”

Universal Principles in Practice

Research in moral psychology (e.g., Jonathan Haidt’s work on The Righteous Mind) shows that across civilizations, humans converge on similar moral foundations: fairness, care, respect, loyalty, and sanctity. Religions universalize them, and secular ethics affirms them. However, living by them daily requires the twin guardians of humility and courage.

  • Respect: Humility to treat others with dignity; courage to show respect even when mocked or belittled.
  • Patience: Humility to accept limits of control; courage to endure hardship without bitterness.
  • Compassion: Humility to feel another’s pain; courage to act when it is costly or inconvenient.
  • Honesty: Humility to admit fault; courage to speak truth even at personal risk.

Conclusion: Principles That Outlast Us

Universal principles like respect, compassion, patience, and tolerance endure across time and culture because they align with the deepest voice of human conscience. Yet they cannot be lived through intellect alone. They require the character attributes of humility and courage.

  • Humility teaches us that my ego is smaller than the truth.
  • Courage teaches us that the truth is worth any cost.

Together, they allow us to honor what is universal and timeless, ensuring that in the face of life’s tests, we remain aligned not with fleeting desires but with enduring values.

[1] That is to say that it is impossible for them to enter paradise.

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Who are You?

Today, I would like to direct the same question to my friends, which I tried to answer for myself in the last post: “Who are you and what is the identity that you have chosen for yourself?”

Conduct an experiment: If you only ask the first part of the question, “who are you?” almost everyone that you meet will answer it by telling you their name or, sometimes, by adding their position or the designation, which they hold in their organization, or by explaining what they do. This clearly points out, on the one hand, that most people – a very large majority – have no sense of identity other than the names that they were given or other than the jobs that they are performing. While, on the other hand, it is an indication that we are, generally, so devoid of a sense of identity that we search for it in such things as our positions, designations, and achievements. However, the problem is that as a being with a conscious, as well as a conscience, we will not be satisfied with an identity given to us by someone else – even if that someone includes our parents, or elders. Neither will we be satisfied with an identity that is likely to change every time our position, work, responsibility, or social status is changed by the circumstances.

Thus, our sense of identity not only gives us stability in our ever changing, unpredictable, and complex world and circumstances, it also gives a meaning to our lives; it provides us the strength to face our share of failures and difficult times in life; it gives us the courage to do what we understand to be right, even when the costs of doing right are high. In a way, it makes us fully human – conscious and conscientious – and connects us to a purpose larger than ourselves.

As a side note, it may be interesting to know that one of the reasons ascribed to the recent increase in the incidence of depression and even suicide – which is indicative of complete hopelessness and despair – is lack of meaning in one’s life. Viktor Frankl’s treatise, ‘Man’s Search for Meaning’ and the subsequent recognition of ‘Logotherapy’ as a branch of Psychology, allows me to say with confidence that striving to find meaning in life is the primary, most powerful motivating driving force in humans.

The idea of a lack of consciously developed identity and a lack of meaning in life reminds me of the large number of students – especially aspiring medical students – who invariably call me in a state of extreme hopelessness and distress, because of their low grades, which are insufficient for pursuing their further studies to become doctors. They clearly sound as if they have lost all sense of identity from their lives. The position and the emotional state of adults is not significantly different, when they are removed from their long-standing, cherished positions.

I do not intend to give the impression that in my opinion, such incidents in life should not be a cause of disturbance and sadness. They most definitely are and probably will continue to be. But, that is life, isn’t it? Things – unpleasant and unwanted – are also going to happen. Having a strong sense of meaning and self-identity will greatly support us in going through the turbulent times of life. This is precisely the message that I have discerned from Viktor Frankl’s ‘Man’s search for Meaning.’

Coming back to the point, I would like you to answer the question “Who are you and what is the identity that you have chosen for yourself?”

Take some time in trying to answer this question. Look past yourself and beyond your immediate needs, desires, and concerns. Look at your surroundings and see what is it that you care enough to contribute to the people around you. Is there any way that you can slightly reduce anyone’s suffering? Is there any thing that you feel moved enough to contribute to those for whom your contribution is of much more value than it costs you? Your identity doesn’t have to be something that challenges the whole world. It can be as humble as making a small difference in a single life – one life at a time. Something that you are moved to contribute as you go through all the ups and downs of your own life. Something that provides you a stable and a permanent identity – at least in your own eyes – irrespective of the changes in your position, responsibility, job, or status.

December 14, 2019
(Lahore, Pakistan)

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